Monday, January 9

hi and lo




"Just so you know? those run really small. I mean, really, really tiny."

It didn't hit me until after the fact that this sales associate was actually insulting me. But I walked away from the bin of work out shorts feeling totally defeated, and nothing short of a massive giant blob that had no right shopping in her store.

I felt horrible for the rest of the afternoon. But mostly because I'd let what she said get to me and ruin my anniversary date with Bryan.

But sometime during Mission Impossible 3, I realized that I was okay. I am okay with who I am, in fact, I'm quite pleased with who I am. I may have taken a blow to my self esteem, but nobody else can define me. This is the year to live my life as the person I've always dreamed I could be. I don't have to apologize for who I am, what size I wear, what store I want to shop in, or what I wear.

I'm sure this girl didn't even realize what she said or how it affected me, but in a way I'm thankful for the experience because it made me stronger.

Besides Bryan said I looked really, really good and that's the only other approval I really need. <3



Sweater|Old Navy, Blouse|Equipment, Jeans|J Brand, Shoes|Luxury Rebel, Bag|Cole Haan, Jewels|Martin + Osa

17 comments:

  1. Anonymous10:48 AM

    you are beautiful! love your smile.

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  2. Anonymous10:52 AM

    Maybe you're interpreting it wrong because you are sensitive about weight? I'm a small person and SA's have said it to me too - I've never been bigger than a size 6. Maybe she was trying to be helpful and letting you know that the shorts do, in fact, run small (some things just do). It's possible that she WAS insulting you, but she also may have been trying to help out...

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  3. Anon, I did consider that, but there is a way to be helpful without hurting someone's feelings.
    Other things were said and done.
    Regardless, I've decided not to let it affect me.

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  4. What a thing to say. You're probably 10 times healthier than she is.

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  5. Bless your heart, i hate when things like that happen. but you have the right attitude, keep positive and as long as we look great in the eyes of those we love we are succeeding!!

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  6. Good for you for moving on. You are gorgeous! : )

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  7. Once a skinny girl told me: "I try and I try and I just can't put on any weight!" And at the time I was going to YMCA and working hard on losing those pounds... Wanted to kill her but then laughed it off (but still remember it almost 20 years later...)

    You are beautiful and I love your blog :)

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  8. Thanks, Tanya. :)
    I think a good practice would be a simple "Can I help you find something?" Maybe I was shopping for a gift? And I actually already own six pair of those shorts. ;)

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  9. Anonymous3:17 PM

    Hi, Good for you for ignoring that comment. That reminds me of when I was living in Vancouver in Canada at a store where even the sizes extra large were too small (i was size 6 at that time) and i asked what is going on to the sales girl? she informed me "this store is for ASIAN people" in a very nasty tone. So I took my large Caucasian frame out of there. Now living in Toronto I went to a store and asked for a size 10 in a dress as 8 was too tight and was informed "we do NOT carry over size 8 in anything as we find they just don't look good". Never went back there as you can imagine. I now avoid small boutiques and stick to larger department stores that still believe in service and helping women look and feel good!

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  10. What a great attitude, Sarah! I love this outfit--so cozy looking and yet still so chic. I'm glad you had a great time on your anniversary date! :)

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  11. Hmm. I sort of have the same thing happen to me when I go into a store that caters to much younger clientele and the sales clerk asks with a smirk if I want to try something on. I usually respond "NO I was just looking to see where that Skenky secretary at my office shops"!!I know it is stupid of me to respond like that but sometimes I feel like "REALLY!"

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  12. SARAH, YOU ROCK!! <3

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  13. Annie5:39 AM

    If I could have thought if it in time I would have said, with a super smile on my face, "Oh, and I would just bet you work on a commission...too bad for you, I needed to buy 12 pair..." Then, I would have left...
    No one has permission to take my power...

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  14. Thank you all for your comments (and support).
    I have been known to be extra sensitive, but I think this was a case of assumption on the sales person's part. She (they) rushed to judgement before asking what I needed, and it just made for a very awkward situation.

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  15. Awful comment, great outfit. You wear grey really well!

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  16. I just found your blog last week and I am really enjoying it :)
    BTW....you look pretty small to me....and lovely! I'm glad you're not letting that careless comment ruin your outlook!

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  17. lawdiva2:23 PM

    I don't comment often but I do visit your blog often. You are gorgeous and have a wonderful figure and know how to style it so well. Don't pay that woman any mind.

    On the flip side, I was extremely skinny all of my life and felt so self conscious about it and always wanted to gain weight. I got lots of mean comments that I was way too skinny and it hurt. So I guess everyone is a potential target.

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